1) Getting To Yes – by William Ury and Roger Fisher. Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Amazon Link
2) Difficult Conversations -by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen, and Roger Fisher. How to Discuss What Matters Most. Amazon Link
So why are these two books so great?
- Well the first one is really focused on the concept of ‘interest‘ based negotiations vs. positional negotiations. What they mean by this, is finding out why the other party wants something, instead of focusing on what they want (the position). This may seem simple, but it is something that is too often forgotten in a negotiation.
- The second book is focused on how to have productive difficult conversations. These type of conversations can be anything from a difficult business conversation to one with your spouse. This book addresses the too often ignored issue of the emotional part of conversations or negotiations; and yes emotions can have a dramatic impact on the outcome/final decision.
- Oh, and who is behind the books? The Harvard Program on Negotiation. In my humble opinion, this group is the best in the world on how to negotiate. They don’t have gimmicks or one-liners, but they do have some of the deepest thinkers on how to negotiate (in any arena) or situation. Any top software based company should take a read.